So, your best friend has just announced her engagement or finalised the date for her wedding and has asked you to be the maid of honour. You no doubt feel quite special, honoured even, however, you may also be feeling a little bit panicked or overwhelmed. Fear not, this 10-step guide will teach you all you need to know about your duties for the big day and indeed the months leading up to it.
Step 1: Get organised
Organisation, organisation, organisation…. We really can’t stress this enough! The first thing you need to do is go out and buy yourself a snazzy new notebook, planner or journal to make sure you have all your duties documented in a way that is easy to understand.
Step 2: Make a list
Once you have your new bit of stationery in place, it’s now time to make that all-important list of things to do. Remember, it’s not all about organising the hen party (although that is of course extremely important). Sit down with the bride and together come up with a list of duties she would like you to take care of.
Step 3: Have a chat with the bridesmaids
We’re not saying you have to go over the top here, you really don’t need to ‘give them a talking to’ but we do advise that you get the girls together to work out how you can best assist your girlfriend over the coming months.
Step 4: Organise the hen night
Yes, this is the part you have really been looking forward to and unless we are very much mistaken the bride is pretty excited about it too. It’s probably a good idea to ask her about any dos or don’ts before you start planning the hen night of your dreams. You may well envision a night of mayhem, with cocktails, strippers and an early morning finish time, but this may not be what your friend would like. Make sure you plan for the brides preferences and not your own.
Step 5: Organise a bridal shower
Bridal showers are becoming more and more popular in Ireland and it’s now pretty much common custom to host a bridal party for your buddy in the weeks leading up to the big day.
Step 6: Keep talking to the bride
It’s important to keep asking the bride if there’s anything you can help with. She’s probably feeling a little overwhelmed right about now and it’s your job to take the pressure off.
Step 7: Keep her company
Attend every event possible with the bride, whether that’s a trip to the local florist or a trek up the country to a wedding showcase. You need to show that you are the most supportive maid of honour in Ireland and reach goals that others have failed to meet in the past. YOU are the ONLY maid of honour and YOU are going to make sure your best friend has the best day ever, without stress, without worry, without doubt!
Step 8. Get in touch with the Best Man
The best man may need some encouragement to make sure he’s keeping on top of all his duties. Keep him motivated by having regular chats or meetings. You know what they say; behind every great man is an even greater woman….and that’s YOU!
Step 9: Prepare for all circumstances
On the lead up to the big day it’s a good idea to put together a ‘survival’ kit of sorts for the wedding day. You may want to include needles, thread, safety pins, clear nail varnish, glue, deodorant, hairspray, plasters and any medication that could be required. You are now ready for any unforeseen circumstances.
Step 10: Speech?
Are you going to say a few words about your wonderful friend? Has the bride asked you to recount a few tales of old? If so, you’re going to want to write a speech that is entertaining, informative….and true. Again, it’s probably a good idea to touch base with the bride before you write your speech to avoid any embarrassing moments.